Yes, I know what my name sounds like.

The fact is, a 14-year-old girl may be capable of agreeing to sex with a 49-year-old man, but she doesn’t have the emotional and mental maturity to consent. I was 25 before I realized that every man I’d slept with as a teenager was a pedophile. It seemed to me that since I’d courted the attention, that I was fully culpable. What teenager believes she is not mentally or emotionally capable of full consent? I thought I was an adult, although when I look at the picture of myself from the time period above, I see a child.

I thought I was the exception for these men, the girl so precocious and advanced that it superseded social norms. I thought that I was “older than my chronological age.”

It never occurred to me as a young sexually active teen that the adult men I had relationships with may have been manipulating me, that they had designs and motives I couldn’t see from my limited child’s perspective.

Emily, XOJANE, "The Myth of the Teenage Temptress, or Why a Young Girl Can Not Consent to Sex with an Adult Man"

Everyone should read this article if they haven’t already. The anecdotes are upsetting and carry major TW (pedophilia, graphic depictions of sex), but the message is just so on point. 

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What I needed, and what she needed, were strong male role models in my life who knew how the fuck to say “No thanks” to a little girl’s come-ons. Because it doesn’t matter if a young girl is saying yes, it’s an adult man’s job to say no.

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Super interesting, important. I remember not feeling like a real woman until grown men commented sexually on the way I looked. And I was 14/15. And that shit is fucked up.

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Orphan is the New Black

Orphan is the New Black

Will My Son Twerk Himself To Death?


Dear Abby, 7 May 2014:

DEAR ABBY: I’m the happily married mother of two teenage boys. The other day I overheard my older son (age 17) talking with a friend about “twerking.” I have never heard of it and now I’m worried. Is twerking a drug term? Is it similar to “tripping,” “getting high” or…


#bringbackourgirls - It’s the hashtag heard around the world.
Millions have expressed outrage and concern as nearly 300 girls are still in the hands of the terrorist group Boko Haram in Nigeria.  Join Yahoo Global News Anchor Katie Couric for a special live conversation about the crisis on Friday, May 9, at 11:30am ET.
Katie will talk to New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof who called for an international effort to rescue the girls in his most recent column, Nigerian human rights leader Hafsat Abiola and Ramaa Mosley, a filmmaker and mother from California who helped #BringBackOurGirls go viral.
What do you want to know about this story, and what questions would you ask Katie’s guests? Have you shared a photo of yourself with #bringbackourgirls, like so many others have around the world?
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It's been 365 days since my last drink


I’ve been sober for a year today. And guys, I’m really proud of that.

I’d known for a long time that I had the capacity to have a drinking problem, and then lived in denial when that problem manifested and became something I hid. As a teen, I binge-drank regularly, but stopped when I was 17 after…

I am so, so, proud of Anne. She is one of the best people and a fucking force.